Wednesday, May 24, 2006

Parenting

One of the themes I recognise in the first four chapters is "Parenting".

It is through Amir's narration that we understood how much he was suffering under his father's negligence and high expectations. It was rather upsetting to know that he has to be fearful and in awe of his father all the time. And he is always trying to behave in a way that pleases his father.

Hence, due to this lack of affection from his father, he might have developed the notion that fathers and sons are born enemies, or rather, he is convinced that his father truly regards him as the murderer of his wife. This is seen in chapter four when Hassan was saddened by the story which tells of a father who kills his son. Amir, on the contrary, who could not understand Hassan's grief, unfeelingly and mistakenly felt that, "didn't all fathers in their secret hearts harbor a desire to kill their sons?"

This made me reflect and associate it with reality whereby many children, or once-children, suffer similar fate. Hence, no matter the era, children are always hoping for love, attention and recognition from significant adults, especially their parents. Thus, I hope that this story has shed some light to those of us who are parents or parents-to-be. Praise your child and make him smile!

3 Comments:

Blogger Logan thought ...

You know the irony of all that you have said is Baba never once spoke about his expectations on Amir. It was all action. You are right when you say that this is all about parenting. We speak with our actions so that we can hide behind the lie that we never said such things! Excellent discovery!

10:03 pm  
Blogger shaz thought ...

you know that line, "didn't all fathers in their secret hearts harbor a desire to kill their sons?" I kinda felt that Amir said that with pain and a longingness for love, rather than with unfeelingness.

10:55 pm  
Blogger SeaLs thought ...

LOGAN > Nice touch on your last line. How true and ironic isn't it, that we all express our love through actions yet hide behind them after being pounded the knowledge how love without actions is dead?

SHAZ > I just posted an entry about what you mentioned about the secret desire to kill sons. =)

2:34 am  

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